What to Say When… He Is Allergic to Apologizing
Scenario: Joy and Rich were arguing more often than they ever had before during their five years of marriage. Financially,… read more
Scenario: Joy and Rich were arguing more often than they ever had before during their five years of marriage. Financially,… read more
In the introduction to “When Sorry Isn’t Enough”, Gary Chapman describes the path to the development of our new book…. read more
I’m often asked how I came up with the new concepts in “When Sorry Isn’t Enough”. I co-authored this book with Gary Chapman and it was released in May 2013. Here is an interview in which I answered that question: How did the idea of an apology language first come to your mind? During my six years of graduate training in clinical psychology at the University of Maryland, I made note cards about lessons I learned that might help my future clients. On these cards, I listed may Bible verses and quotes about conflict, forgiveness, grief, marriage, parenting, etc. Ten years ago, I made a note card that listed several different parts of an apology. At that time, I only had three parts of an apology, but I added to the list over the years and finally arrived at our five parts of an apology. [linkback]
Check out this new article about apologies from Gary Chapman’s recent live interview at the Smart Marriages Conference.
Gary Chapman is well known as the ‘love languages guy’. His New York Times bestselling book, The Five… read more
The Apology I Need Please tell me you are sorry, As it helps me know you care about my feelings. Please admit you were wrong, As it lifts my heart when you don’t pass the blame. Please show me how you’ll fully restore me, As I was afraid things would never be right again. [linkback]