A while back, Gary Chapman and I traveled to Colorado Springs for a taping of their daily broadcast. Here are some of my behind the scenes memories: During the session, the interviewers asked some great questions about the five languages of apology. Gary and I have developed a rapport for interviews like this. Generally, we take turns giving the answers. If we have something to add to the other’s answer, we lift a finger or point to ourselves. When we are asked about teaching kids to apologize, Gary usually points to me and I step in to answer because I have young kids. When theological questions pop up, I point to Gary because he’s a pastor. Read More »
Before Gary Chapman and I wrote When Sorry Isn’t Enough, we asked 400 people what they look for in sincere apologies. We found that their answers fell into these five categories (we call them ‘apology languages’):
Apology Language #1: Expressing Regret “I am sorry.”
Apology Language #2: Accepting Responsibility “I was wrong.”
Apology Language #3: Restitution-Making Amends “What can I do to make it right?”
Apology Language #4: Genuinely Repenting “I want to change.”
Apology Language #5: Requesting Forgiveness “Will You Please Forgive me?”
Gary Chapman is well known as “The Love Language Man.” His New York Times book, The Five Love Languages, selling over 9 million copies, has become a classic. To have blissful relationships, showing love is a must. To have happy friends and co-workers, showing appreciation is essential. Recently, Dr. Chapman has embraced a second necessary ingredient for healthy relationships: dealing with offenses through apologies and forgiveness. In May, Gary Chapman and I released When Sorry Isn’t Enough, which tells readers how to make things right with anyone. We believe that these two books fit together like a hand in a glove. Both sets of tools are needed to make relationships work. Read More »
In the introduction to “When Sorry Isn’t Enough”, Gary Chapman describes the path to the development of our new book. Other authors have talked about the components of a good apology but none have zeroed in on the powerful scripts others have in mind when we try to apologize to them. Here is his “Aha” […]
Gary Chapman talked about issues of forgiveness in a radio interview this month. Many assume that forgiveness has no qualifiers so our analysis of Bible passages about forgiveness may be surprising. I thought my readers might like to hear what he is saying on this important topic.
CLICK HERE to listen to an in-depth radio chat with Gary Chapman. Tip: Skip ahead to minute 11 to hear about forgiveness. Here is a description of the whole interview.Read More »
Check out this new article about apologies from Gary Chapman’s recent live interview at the Smart Marriages Conference.