With Mother’s Day on the horizon, many of us pause to reflect on the relationships that have shaped us — especially the ones that continue to evolve as we grow older. Some of these connections are tender and loving. Others are complicated or marked by misunderstanding. But whether you’re honoring your own mother, navigating your role as a parent, or thinking about any important relationship in your life, one truth remains: communication is the bridge that keeps us close or pulls us apart.

It’s not uncommon to pour our hearts into something — a text, a gesture, a well-meaning message — and feel confused when it doesn’t land the way we hoped. Maybe your mother didn’t seem touched by your gift. Or your child brushed off your efforts to connect. These moments can be painful and discouraging, especially when our intentions were rooted in love.

One thing I’ve learned in my years of working with individuals and families is this: people don’t always feel loved the way we think they do. What fills our emotional tank might not register at all for someone else. That’s where the concept of love languages, as outlined in The 5 Love Languages®, becomes such a powerful tool. When we understand whether someone feels most cared for through words, actions, time, touch, or gifts, we can begin speaking in ways that actually reach their heart. And the shift can be profound.

But communication is not just about giving love — it’s also about repairing it. Even the strongest relationships have moments of hurt, tension, or distance. That’s why I believe so strongly in the work I did with Dr. Gary Chapman on The 5 Apology Languages™. A sincere apology, offered in the way the other person receives it best, has the power to reset everything. It tells someone, “You matter. I see how I hurt you. And I want to do better.”

If you’ve been feeling discouraged by a lack of connection, I want to gently encourage you: it’s not too late. Relationships aren’t built on flawless communication — they’re built on consistent effort, empathy, and the willingness to learn each other’s language. Sometimes, a new approach opens the door to a whole new dynamic.